So last weekend Jeff and I did our Pre-Cana classes. This is basically what the Catholic Church makes you do, so that they will marry you. It was a magnificent waste of time. We went from 6:30 - 9:30 Friday night and 8:00 to 6:30 Saturday. That's 13 hours of sitting in hard metal folding chairs having people talk about how communication is important, you should trust your partner, and it's a lifetime commitment. All things you should know before you got engaged. The day was broken up into hour long sessions on certain topics.
The most useful was the financial section, mostly because the couple that lead the section. He was a financial planner and she was a stay at home mom making ends meet. What I learned from them is that Pre-nuptial agreements are sometimes necessary if your family or you own a business or if your family has a lot of property that shouldn't be divided. They made some good arguments for it. Also, in GA once you are married everything you own would be split 50/50 where as, most other states, like Iowa, if you divorce you keep what was yours before the marriage and split only what was accrued during the marriage. Another thing they mentioned, was writing wills. Apparently once we get married we should make up a simple will listing each other as the benefactors. It just makes things easier if something should happen.
We also learned about Natural Family Planning, which I thought was really interesting. I always assumed it was very similar to the rhythm method. It’s a little different because it takes into account temperature at the cervix and how the cervix sits (soft, open, high, wet). I think I might try the charting part of it, just to understand better how my body works. Maybe I should add an instant read thermometer to our registry…
At the end of the Saturday we had to go to mass. It wasn’t a bad mass, I always feel a little weird when everyone goes up for communion, and I just sit there. But we did find a song we like for the wedding:
'Tis the gift to be simple,
'tis the gift to be free,
'tis the gift to come down where you ought to be,
And when we find ourselves in the place just right,
It will be in the valley of love and delight.
When true sim-pli-ci-ty is gained,
to bow and to bend we will not be ashamed,
to turn, to turn, will be our delight
til byturning, turning, we come 'round right.
Love is a gift within us all,
we need to learn to answer its call;
and we can live in harmony and peace once again
And will share our love and our joy with all men.
'Tis the gift to be loved and that love to return,
'Tis the gift to be taught and a richer gift to learn,
And when we expect of o-thers what we try to live each day,
Then we'll all live together and we'll all learn to say