Virtual Wedding Ceremony

For those of you who didn't make it to the wedding. Here is a virtual wedding ceremony.

Arrival at Ledges State Park
Everyone gathered at the Carl Fritz Henning Shelter.

Laurence plays the song he wrote called "ain't she pretty" on his cello.

Foy comes in with her dad.

Father Terry Welcomes Everyone
On behalf of Foy, Jeff, I welcome all of you, and am elated that you could join us for this marriage celebration. We are here today to encourage, celebrate and support the covenant these two people, beloved to us, now make. The marriage they are creating here has roots in themselves, and the love, friendship, and guidance each of us has offered them. They have asked us to be with them here today, because we are a community of loved ones. We rejoice in the ways life has led them to each other and brought them to the place where they now stand.
The charming groomsmen.

The beautiful bridesmaids
Father Terry: Jeff, the woman who stands by your side is about to become your wife. She will look to you for comfort, for support, for understanding, for encouragement, and for protection. You must never take her for granted, and always consider her along with yourself.

Jeff: Foy, as freely as God has given me life,I bind my life with yours.Wherever you go, I will go.Whatever you face, I will face.For good or ill, in happiness or sadness,Come riches or poverty, I choose you as my wife.

Same thing to Foy.

Reading 1 by Lynette
Colossians 3:12-16
A reading from the letter of Paul to the Colossians
[12] You are the elect of God, holy and beloved, be clothed in sincere compassion, in kindness and humility, gentleness and patience.
[13] Forbearing one another; forgive each other as soon as a quarrel begins. As God forgave you; now you must do the same.
[14] Above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfectness.
[15] And let the peace of God reign in your hearts, it is for this that you were called together as parts of one body. Always be thankful.
[16] Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly. Teach each other, and advise each other, in all wisdom. With grace in your hearts sing praise to God.
This is the word of the Lord.

Reading 2 by Tom Batkiewicz
Adapted from "Union" by Robert FulghumFoy and Jeff, you have known each other for ten years, through the first glance of acquaintance to this moment of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of Yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with “When we’re married” and continued with “I will and you will and we will”- those late night talks that included “someday” and “somehow” and “maybe”- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding.

The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, “ You know all those things we’ve promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.” Look at one another – remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another during these years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife.

Moment of SilenceFather Terry: Please spend a few moments in silence, to listen to yourself, to nature, and to appreciate your own blessings of love and family.

Marriage VowsFather Terry: Since it is your intention to marry, join your right hands and declare your consent.

Do you Jeffrey Michael Diesburg take Foy to be your lawful wedded wife to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live.

Jeff: I Do.

Do you Foy take Jeff to be your lawful wedded husband, to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer or for poorer, in sickness and in health, as long as you both shall live.

Foy: I Do.

Exchange of Rings
Song Simple Gifts
Father Terry: Foy and Jeff, as a collection of words, this ceremony would count for little, were it not for the love and commitment you here pledge to one another. Your vows may have been spoken in minutes, but your promises to each other will last a lifetime.Those who are joined by this sacred covenant, let no one put asunder. As Foy and Jeff have pledged themselves to meet sorrow and joy as one family before this community of friends, I now pronounce them husband and wife.
You may kiss your bride.
RecessionalWritten and played by Laurence entitled "okay we are done now, you can go".
Yeah, we're married!

More Wedding Photos

Sarah has put up more wedding photos on her site.


Two Days

I finally feel like things have been set in motion. For the longest time I have felt like I have been pushing to get things done for the wedding. Now I feel like they will continue of their own momentum. There are just some finial flower things and the food prep left to do.

Our refrigerator, which was previously empty, is now full of organic dairy products for making scrambled eggs and pancakes. My trunk is full of linens and glasses and vases and syrup and signs and so much stuff.

All I have left to do tonight is a trial run of my wedding make-up and then sleep. lots and lots of sleep.


Wedding Accessories

Last night Sara and Sarah came over and finished the signs for me. They are such great friends.

It was also the first night I tried on all my wedding attire together. Here is my beautiful necklace. Marigold made it for me out of beads from family necklaces, some of her own beads, and some she bought. Last night Sara added a couple more beads. Both my family and Jeff's are represented on this necklace. It is probably my favorite wedding touch so far. Marigold also made little dangles for the pearl studs Jeff gave me. Then for my something borrowed, I have Aunt Kris's pearl bracelet. And just because I really liked it, my beaded clutch.

I love the way it all came together with all my jewelry and shoes and no panty-line undergarmets. My dress still fits like a glove. I looked so pretty. It was also hot, in like I was sweating, kind of hot. I hope there is a stiff breeze all day.

From the looks of the weather if it doesn't rain, it will at least be windy. There is no back up location if it rains, so bring an umbrella. However, the weather looks really nice for Friday, which is more important, because the rehearsal dinner will last a lot longer than our wedding.


Projects up the wazoo

I have been busy!

Today I made signage. There are little tags for the family wedding portraits, and guest book. I also painted some big pieces of plywood Jeff had stored at home. So if you are driving to the wedding or rehearsal dinner, be on the look out for these. They will be random assorted shapes.

Then I went to HyVee and Wheatsfield Grocery and compared their prices on organic stuff. HyVee is coming out on top so far. Wheatfield only wins in the bulk department, and all I need in that department is flour. I also called the Berry Patch and tried to convince them to keep their strawberry plants producing for one more week. They have promised that I shall get what ever they have available Friday. I still need to call the organic eggs lady and tell her I need 10 dozen eggs.

I haven't completed my official cost estimate, but I think it will be about $100 higher than my original non-organic cost estimate. It's a lot more work to go organic, but it has been interesting to see how things compare.

I have also been testing different types of local flowers for their ability to hold up out of water. Here are some test runs I did for bridesmaid bouquets. This is right after I made them. I really like the look of the Queen Ann's Lace with peony leave on the left right.

However, you can see that after 11 hours, they are a bit weepy. However, I think they will hold up for the wedding, I could even make a second set as back-up if they get to wilted. I think each bridesmaid will have a slightly different bouquet.

Jeff has also been busy. He cast our wedding rings today. Yeah!


One Week

So it's a week until our wedding. There is still a lot to do, but it is manageable.

We still haven’t figured out what to do with ourselves after the wedding. It’s kind of an odd thing we have the wedding and then reception and then it is 2:00. So I guess we’ll have to do something. I am thinking we load up and take all the presents back to our apartment and gleefully rip into them! Then we should get together with everyone from out of town for dinner. The question is what restaurant could hold a bunch of people like that? We might be able to get one of the balcony type areas at Olde Main or Olde Chicago. I don’t know, I guess we’ll play it by ear. So, if you are coming in for the wedding, stay posted we’ll probably be available for dinner.

You know what?

You know what I think is creepy? Long finger nails.

You know what I am doing? Updating my website.

You know what I should be doing? Stuff for the wedding.


Bed Karma

We had to leave our bed in Savannah. It just wouldn't fit in either of our cars and we weren't renting a u-haul for it. So we sold it for $50 on Craig's List. When we got to Ames we slept on an airmatress, and then my parents gave us two twins that we pushed together and pretended were a king. Then I put a want ad up on Craig's List for a king or queen bed. A couple days later, I was contacted. This person wanted to sell her queen for $100. However, I didn't check my email regularly, so I didn't see the email. So she emailed again offering it for $50. We arranged for pick up in Des Moines.

Jeff strapped the boxsprings to the roof of my dad's van, crammed the mattress inside, and with the help of friends moved it into our apartment. Now we have a queen bed. It's actually really nice. It's a two year old Sealy. It sits really high. When our pillows fall off the bed, we actually have to reach down for them and fish them off the floor.

In light of our new bed, I added some queen size bedding stuff to our registries (Bed Bath and Beyond and Target). The old twin comforter doesn't quite cover the whole bed.


The wedding plans march forward

You'd think that since neither Jeff, nor I have jobs, we'd have lots of spare time to unpack our stuff. Instead we have been slowly, but steadily working our way through a monsterous To Do List. Lots has gotten done like ironing all the napkins, changing rentals, meeting with the church ladies, getting groomsman shirts, finding table center pieces, and bringing in furniture to our apartment. I keep thinking, "when this wedding is over, then I'll work on _____." Suprisingly similar to how I used to think, "when I get back to Ames, then I'll work on _____." Although things keep getting checked off, I am having a hard time seeing the light at the end of the tunnel.

However, an exciting thought is, that tomorrow the ten day forcast will show our wedding date. Everyone keep their fingers crossed for good weather. Already it looks like we will have good weather for the rehearsal dinner!

Also, I stopped in at Mary Kay's Flowers and gifts to talk about my wedding flowers and they had an interesting orchid I might use for my hair, it is green with a purple throat. The colors are not quite as intense as this, but similar. Do you think I should go with the green and purple (which are the colors we basically wound up with for the wedding) or should I go will a basic white/cream? or basic green? Or all three? or I could just cover my head with all different kinds of orchids and avoid having to "do my hair" in the morning.

The Best Bachelorette Party Ever

Last weekend my lovely friends threw me a bacheloretty party. It was awesome. We started off the morning by having a small group "photo shoot". An ode to the times we used to play dress up when we were little, and when we were not so little. As you can see Sarah and I are all class. I think I recall that look on Sarah's face from when we used to get excited about the pool opening for the summer.

Here is Lisa being cute.

You push up!

After a morning of frollicing in the park we had breakfast at Bella's Cafe. Then we went on a hunt for the best PMS food ever Chocolate Turtle Chex Mix.

After completing our mission, we went to Finesse Spa and recieved treatments while sipping cappuccino and reading Cosmo Confessions. I think I figured out how my hair will be for the wedding! I also have the loveliest toes. I keep looking down and thinking, "wow, my toes look really good." I think Sarah has this nail color I may have to barrow it to do touch-ups before the wedding.

After our spa time we went back to Sarah's and watched Elizabeth Town, which I have to say was a nice romantic comedy with a really good sound track.

After our movie more friends arrived and I got some gifts. Some, really fun gifts. So fun that I can't tell you what they are, but let's just say they will be coming on the honeymoon with us! Then we sat arround and talked about girly things into the wee hours. The next morning we all got up and had a really tasty breakfast of egg scramble, pineapple and oatmeal blueberry muffins.

I have awesome friends. If you would like to see more pictures from the "photo shoot" check out Lisa's page.


One can dream!

A goodly portion of our belongings are half unpacked sitting on the living room floor and I am already considering our next move. I want to live on the West Coast before I settle down.

I can't bring myself to want to move in another month. We'd have to find a new location, find college level Spanish classes. No, I don't think we'll move right away.

I've been looking at the master's fellowship programs the PC offers and where they are located. The most appealing program is at University of Wisconson (Stevens Point). They have a Masters of Science in environmental education/interpretation or youth programming. The University of Arizona has a Teaching Certificate, and/or Education Masters, which sounds promising. There is also a Fast Track Teaching program offered at Xavier University of Louisiana. The only programs offered on the West Coast are not in things I am interested in, or I don't think I will qualify. That's unfortunate. Although most of the programs are less than two years old, so maybe in another couple of years when we get back there will be new opprotunities.

I think we'll stay here for the coming year. Maybe we'll come back from the PC and I'll want to stay in Ames for the rest of my life. I won't want to move ever.

Somehow I don't think so.


We have arrived

We rolled into Ames at about two Wednesday morning. The drive was fine, relatively uneventful and mind numbingly long. I did get through 1.5 books on tape.

Our apartment is huge! Especially when compared to our place is Savannah. You could fit our entire Savannah apartment in the living room of this place. It feels almost vulgar to have this much room. There is a huge closet in the bedroom and two additional ones in the hallway. I wish I could convey just how little space we had in Savannah. Imagine if you made an apartment in the style of a dorm room, and didn't loft any of the furniture. Now put big shutters over the windows, so it is kind of dark and gloomy, that was our apartment. This apartment only has three windows, but they actually let in light! At some point I decided the cheapness of a kitchen could be decided by the number of drawers a kitchen has. The place in Savannah had two. This kitchen has six.

Really it isn't that this apartment is so wonderful, just in comparison. The trim is this ugly stained to look like dark oak, and all the wall are boring off-white, it has that feeling of late 70's early 80's. The refrigerator is so old, it has a metal interior.

I guess we'll be here for at least two months, maybe we'll extend the lease for the next year, but who knows?


The Graduate and what all our worldly Possessions look like

This is The Graduate

This is all our stuff in the court yard.

We are almost all packed and ready to go. It is 5:30 or so here. We are just about to make the longest drive I have ever done solo. I think I get to count it as solo, since I am driving all of it, even though Jeff will be close by in his own car.

While at the beach yesterday, Jeff went swimming, with his cell phone. He does have phone insurance, however, they couldn't get a phone here until tomorrow, so we are driving with just my phone. We were really counting on our phones as a way to communicate. To fix this problem, Jeff suggested Walkie Talkies. I went to Home Depot and bought them. We both needed to brush up on our Rogers, and Over and Outs, so here's the perfect opprotunity.

We'll see all you Ames People in about two days. You're all going to help us move in right?


Master Jeff

Jeff is officially a master. After a five hour cerimony and being bored to tears, it is all over. Jeff's mother, father and step mother were all in town for the occasion. They brought a whorl wind of activity with them. I think I am ready to go back to the slow pace of The South.

Neither of us has slept well the last couple days and we've been scheduled to the hilt, so we decided to take today and sleep in and relax. We might get some packing done, but we might go to the beach too.

I think we are ready to move on. Although, I still haven't braced myself for the drive across country. We are not the only ones on the move. I think Marigold and Steve should be starting across Texas right now on their treck to California. Phil and Heather should be some where in North Carolina as they take all their worldly belongings to Maryland. Soon we shall join them in the college student migration across country. I would like to think this will be the last time we make this journey. The one where all our worldly belongs are stuffed into our cars and we move them to some place we have never seen before. I know better. We aren't quite ready to settle down yet. Maybe in another five years or so and another two or three migrations.



We just sold the bed for $50. Thank you Craig's List! I guess we'll be sleeping on an airmatress the next couple of nights.

The Right of the Dragon

So Jeff has completed the whole passages thing. It was actually quite nice. Jeff made the bases of the flowers, and skinned the middle section of the dragon. I want to write more about it, but I'm tired and I should go to bed. Here are some pictures.

This is the flowers in staging at the public docks:

Here is the lovely she-dragon:

And here is the dragon swimming with the flowers:


So Tired

Yesterday was my last day of work. It was fine, I wound up doing inventory for a good chunk of it, which threw off my watering schedule. I had a nice little system worked out where I would water on the west side of the building in the morning when it was shady, then hang out inside from 11-1 or so to miss the worst of the heat of the day, then water the east side, when it started to get shady. This meant I didn't get burnt, but with my schedule all off from inventory, I was in the sun all day and I got burnt.

There was one exciting thing. A customer spotted a baby raccoon behind some of our plants. He was just a little guy, about the size of a kitten. He probably came up for the cat food we leave out back. So we kept an eye on him and called the vet next door, they called this lovely women who came with big black leather gloves and caught him. He did put up a little bit of a fight making angry growling noises and such. It reminded me of the when Simba is a cub in the Lion King and trying to growl. The entire time he was growling, she was talking so him like a baby, "look at how cute you are, where's your mama?, I bet she doesn't know your here, you're going to come with me and live in a big pen until your ready to be released in a place you won't get in trouble, come here sweety." Just this constant nice talk as the little raccoon tried its best to fight his way out. Once she had him, he continued to try and bite her glove and wriggle. Then he would forget himself and just look at us wonderingly, then he's remember he was being fierse and try growling and biting again. He looked a lot like this: Then she put him in a cat carrier and off they went to a place that rehabilitates raccoons and then relocates them to less human populated areas.

There have been other exciting things going on, but I must convince Jeff to get up so we can pick up his car from its oil change.